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The Young Mans Haircut

I spent some time at a Turkish barber this weekend. I’ve always admired the craftsmanship in these places, by the way. There’s a particular kind of care and precision they bring to a haircut that you rarely find in a traditional salon.

Towards the end of the cut, the barber paused and asked whether I usually styled my hair up in a quiff or down over my forehead. When I told him I wore it up, he smiled and said that wearing it down would make me look younger.

Being in my late 50s, looking younger isn’t a particular goal of mine. In fact, I think trying too hard to recapture your youth can look a bit daft. However, his comment sparked a little digital curiosity, so I decided to use AI to generate a version of myself with a younger man’s hairstyle, just to see the contrast.

The result? It confirmed my instincts. While the AI could change the hair and smooth the edges, I much prefer the reality. There’s a certain comfort in looking the age you actually are.

My Original Cut
The Original Cut

AI Version 1
AI Version 1

AI Version 2
AI Version 2

AI Version 3
AI Version 3

A small update

I’ve never been completely happy with the hair around my crown. It always seems to become wayward very quickly, while the hair at the sides soon develops into tufts that make me look like a ruddy emperor penguin.

So, two weeks ago, I decided to visit a proper stylist. She explained that the way Turkish barbers cut hair can sometimes involve cutting into the hair around the crown. As it begins to grow back, this can make it stand up. It also looks as though the new cut may have finally sorted out the emperor penguin tufts.

Overall, I’m very happy with it. My hair is growing nicely, and the hair around my crown is getting longer. As it grows, the extra weight should help keep it down. I may go back in a couple of weeks for a trim and to discuss what I’m going to do with it next, including how long I’m going to let it grow.

Chasing the Flavour in Coffee

So, for anyone who doesn’t know, I review beers, and I’m fairly good at picking out individual flavours in the beers that I review.

That’s why I got a bit excited when my wife bought me a Ninja Luxe Café Premier Espresso Machine bean-to-cup coffee machine last Christmas. I liked the idea of doing the same thing with coffee.
You read these descriptions and they sound incredible. “Mild chocolate with a juicy blackcurrant sweetness and a hint of lime.” or “Rich dark chocolate, sweet honey, and bright tangerine.”

I genuinely wanted to taste that, but I quickly found that I can’t ... everything well, just tastes like coffee!

I’ve tried the usual advice. No milk, no sweeteners, no sugar. I’ve read that the drip method (the Luxe function on this specific machine), is one of the best ways to bring out those more delicate flavours, so that’s how I’ll do all of these.

I’m going to treat this like I would a beer review, but slower, and a bit more methodical. I’m going to test strength, grind size, temperature, and even the water I’m using.

When I can get it, I tend to stick to Vemondo Barista Oat ‘Milk’ from Lidl, but if I will use a comparable barista oat milk.

For those that want to know the water details ... where we live the water is classed as Hard, and apparently I have since discovered that this particular profile can suppress some of the brighter and more delicate flavours, so I need to be wary of that.

Calcium: 73.8 mg/l
Magnesium: 24.9 mg/l
Conductivity: 524 µS/cm
pH: 7.5 

For those coffees with a more delicate flavour profile, I'll be using the Tescos own brand still water (unless otherwise stated) as that apparently has a nice soft water profile.

I’ll keep this post updated as I go. If I crack it, great. If I don’t, at least I’ll know it’s not for lack of trying.

Lidl Deluxe Colombian Rica

20 July 2026
Rich and full-bodied Flavour with Fruity Notes
Strength: 4 (Medium Dark)
Grind: Pre-Ground (Fine)
Water: Soft bottled water

Another coffee I was personally disappointed with from a fruity perspective. I know traditional Columbian coffee is one of the best in the world for a rich but balanced flavour, and as a pure coffee I got that deep, rich but not overpowering coffee flavour. Not no fruitiness to be found, no citrus acidity. So as a pure coffee and pure coffee flavour, very nice; I just wanted that hint or note of fruitiness.
Score: 6/10

Tesco The Best Ethiopian Ground Coffee

13 July 2026
Flavours expected: Apricot and Floral Notes
Strength: 3 (Medium)
Grind: Pre-Ground (Fine)
Water: Soft bottled water

Really surprised and a tad disappointed with this one. Absolutely no fruit or floral notes whatsoever, just tasted like the roasty coffee version with hard water!
Score: 5/10

Tesco The Best Ethiopian Ground Coffee

13 July 2026
Flavours expected: Apricot and Floral Notes
Strength: 3 (Medium)
Grind: Pre-Ground (Fine)
Water: Hard tap water

As a plain black coffee I liked this, no harsh bitterness, and I did pick up a small trace of fruitiness in the flavour, no masses, but a subtle hint of it being there. A decent enough everyday coffee IMHO.
Score: 7/10

Tesco Finest Colombian Supremo

2 July 2026
Flavours expected: Notes of caramel and Blood Orange
Strength: 3 (Medium)
Grind: Pre-Ground (Fine)
Water: Lidl Carrick Glen still water

Served black, this wasn't bad at all, certaingly got the caramel coming through and there was a hint of citrus in there too which could be blood orange. Decent results with this one. I know the hard tap water will dull that citrus flavour and give it a more roasty feel, so I'm not going to bother, I got what I wanted out of this one.
Score: 7/10

Lidl Deluxe Colombian Rica

11 June 2026
Flavours expected: Warm and Full Bodied with Fruity Notes
Strength: Medium-Drk Roast
Grind: Pre-Ground (Fine)
Water: Lidl Carrick Glen still water

Served black. I used a soft bottled water today. On the nose, a mild tobacco note and a that little earthiness.
The soft water seemed to dull the flavour a little, a little nuttiness, a little tobacco, but no chocolate or fruit; when adding a dash of milk to it, a very mild chocolate flavour come out of it, and the bitterness was a little more restrained.
Score: 4/10

Lidl Deluxe Colombian Rica

10 June 2026
Flavours expected: Warm and Full Bodied with Fruity Notes
Strength: Medium-Drk Roast
Grind: Pre-Ground (Fine)
Water: Hard tap water

Another pre-ground coffee served black. Used our hard tap water today. On the nose, very strong tobacco notes and a little earthiness.
Honestly, the flavour was just a rich coffee with perhaps a hint of chocolate in there, quite a dry bittereness the further down the cup I got, but no fruit at all; when adding a touch of milk to it, a very mild chocolate flavour come out of it, and that bitterness became a little milder. Looking forward to see what a soft water does to this coffee later.
Score: 4/10

Morrisons The Best Kenyan

1 June 2026
Flavours expected: Blackcurrant and Citrus Notes
Strength: Medium
Grind: Pre-Ground (Fine)
Water: Hard tap water

Slightly different today, I went back to our usual hard Yorkshire tap water rather than the softer bottled water and those fruit flavours definately weren't as pronounced in this coffee that was served black! Perhaps softer water is needed for ther fruitier coffees!
Still smooth and roasty, just without that red berry flavour, I think the chocolate might have been dialled own a tad too.
Score: 6.5/10

Morrisons The Best Kenyan

31 May 2026
Flavours expected: Blackcurrant and Citrus Notes
Strength: Medium
Grind: Pre-Ground (Fine)
Water: Lidl Carrick Glen still water

Couldn't get a whole bean version of this, so I bought the ground version instead. I just put the right amount in the Luxe filter basket, around half full.

As you can see I used a cheap supermarker bottled water. These cheaper waters often come from soft-water sources in places like Cumbria or Scotland, so more delicate flavours should be able to come through.

I do have to remember that, unlike the hop-forward IPAs I enjoy, I'm only looking for a resemblance of flavour rather than outright flavour.

I have to say that this test worked to some extent. This was a very smooth coffee when served black, and I definitely picked up a mild fruitiness (perhaps more red berries). There was no harsh roastiness, and I also got a very mild milk chocolate note and a very mild bitterness.
Score: 7.5/10

Union Gajah Mountain

16 May 2026
Flavours expected: Chocolate Truffle and Molasses
Strength: Medium
Grind: 20 (Coarse)
Water: Evian still water

Started proper experimenting now. Made it a coarse grind to slow down the extraction and try to get more delicate flavours (possibly the coffee for this actually!). Also I incorrectly tried Evian water rather than tap water. The result was a rich roasty coffee with a hint of nut when served black, it's OK but nothing special. With milk it became smooth with a lot of bitterness, but a bit of sweetness came through.
Score: 5.5/10

Union Gajah Mountain

14 May 2026
Flavours expected: Chocolate Truffle and Molasses
Strength: Medium
Grind: 14 (Medium)
Water: Hard Tap water

Again, this makes a very nice, strong coffee, but I’m honestly not picking up any chocolate truffle or molasses flavours. Good quality coffee with a slight nutty note when served black. With milk, this turns into a really smooth, creamy coffee with a nice chocolate flavour.
Score: 7/10

Union Yayu Forest

2 April 2026
Flavours expected: Citrus and Bourbon Biscuits
Strength: Medium
Grind: 14 (Medium)
Water: Hard Tap water

This felt really rich, but I failed to get any citrus, bourbon, or biscuit out of it. It had a strong roast flavour with a little earthiness. Milk dulled the richness slightly and brought out a nice dark chocolate flavour that I really didn’t pick up when I had it black.
Score: 7/10

Rave Colombia El Carmen #50

20 March 2026
Flavours expected: Chocolate Truffle and Molasses
Strength: Medium
Grind: 15 (Medium)
Water: Hard Tap water

A nice chocolate flavour when I had this black. A very understated coffee, and very easy drinking. With milk, it added a nice semi-sweet chocolate note.
Score: 8/10

Bellarom Coffee Beans

3 March 2026
Flavours expected: Heavily roasted coffee and dark chocolate
Strength: Medium
Grind: 15 (Medium)
Water: Hard Tap water

Probably some of the cheapest coffee beans on the market. They made a nice black coffee with ash-like notes that I liked, and I did get some really nice chocolate flavour after adding milk.
Score: 5/10

Rave Signature Blend #1

5 February 2026
Flavours expected: Caramel, Almond & Chocolate
Strength: Medium

Water: Hard Tap water

A very decent coffee, but to me it just tasted like good coffee. Not too strong or bitter. The milk did bring out a good chocolate flavour.
Score: 7/10

A Story 35 Years in the Making!

I’ve probably carried this idea around for more than 35 years.

It started with a lad I used to work with. I’ll call him Chris… mainly because that’s his name. He always said he had a novel in him. To be fair, most of us think that at some point. The problem, at least for me, is pulling enough connected ideas together to actually make a novel work. I tend to land on smaller ideas. Short stories feel more natural for me to write, that and I can be realy lazy, and writing at least 40-50,000 words is a bit much for me.

Chris had this very simple concept. A man dies, and at his funeral the people there slowly discover who he really was. That was it. Not much to go on I know, but it stuck with me.

Over the years, I’ve kept coming back to it. I’ve often pictured that man as me. The mourners talking, sharing bits, slowly building up a picture. The good things, the missed chances, the ideas that never quite made it. Almost autobiographical, in a way.

But if I’m honest, I don’t think my real life is interesting enough to carry a story like that. And it had to be about me because that's how I've always thought about this story, and tbh, the stories I’ve written recently, and another that I am currently working on now, they all start with something real in my life, a small truth (the crow corner I drive past almost every day, or the old Victorian doll/ghost my wife and I saw at a window one day, a grain of truth that drifts into the story.

And in my head, this story was always the same.

But because I'm not interesting enough, over time the character became someone else. Still rooted in that original idea, but more interesting, more layered, more worth writing about. In Chris’s version, I’m sure the twist was that the mourners started off disliking the man, then came to understand him, maybe even like him.

I could never quite make that wor for me and it always felt a bit flat.

But something clicked this morning.

I’ve got the twist now, and it flips the whole thing on its head.

This isn’t a story where people come to appreciate the man.

It’s the opposite, and I'm kinda looking forward to writing it.

What Is A Digital Garden?

I’ve had a few people ask what I mean when I call this site a digital garden, so it felt worth explaining properly. Well, explaining it in my own way, and what it basically means to me, so purists will hate this bit.

A digital garden is a way of writing and sharing ideas online that focuses more on growth than polish. Instead of treating every post like a finished article that gets published and forgotten, a digital garden gives you space to plant ideas, come back to them, improve them, and link them to other thoughts over time.

A traditional blog is usually developed and written for an audience, whereas a digital garden is more like an open workspace where you can think out loud and cultivate ideas over time. It is often a very personal space, and many of its notes may only ever be seen by the person tending the garden.

That is what I want this place to be.

In addition to being written for others, a normal blog usually works as a timeline: the newest post sits at the top, older posts gradually drop further down, and everything is arranged by date. A true digital garden often feels different, with content organised by context and connections using links, tags, or visual maps.

I still have a chronological mindset, though, and digital gardens are personal and flexible, so that is how mine will be organised, alongside plenty of tagging, at least for now. One issue is that I developed this myself using Blogger. While I love how it looks and feels, the functionality is still quite blog-like... but, as I said, I’m comfortable with that.

Digital gardens are also less concerned with looking finished. “Posts” are allowed, and even encouraged, to remain works in progress. My simple approach is that I’ll often have an idea, or just something I want to record, and create a note. Over time, it may be worked on and expanded, but it will rarely be finished in the traditional sense.

Now, this is the tricky bit for me. I’m a marketer by trade, so publishing unfinished work is a very foreign concept, and I do find it difficult. However, by forcing myself to do it, I usually have a few seed posts on here.

Like a real garden, nothing here is ever truly finished. In a real garden, you add things, move things, cut things back, and sometimes leave a patch alone until you know what to do with it. A digital garden works in much the same way. Some posts here are more complete than others. Some are simply ideas that needed somewhere to live. Some may grow into something better later, while others will remain very simple notes.

That is part of the appeal for me. I hate social media anyway, particularly reading everyone else’s ridiculous whinging or what they had to eat. This place gets me away from all that and gives me room to think, without pretending that every piece of writing needs to please anyone or become a final draft.

As well as seed posts, which are initial ideas, I move them to sprout when they are a little more developed, and then to flower when I consider them more or less complete. You can navigate to these different stages from the homepage.

You’ll also notice that I use a two-date system on my posts and notes. The “Planted” date is effectively when I first created the post, while the “Last Tended” date shows the most recent time I amended any part of it. Note to self: look at arranging posts by their Last Tended date!

It is also a very personal format. A garden reflects the person looking after it, and a digital garden does the same. Mine is a mixture of stories, notes, opinions, half-formed ideas, rants, things I want to remember, and things I simply did not want to lose in the endless mess of phones, folders, and old platforms.

I’ll be honest, organising it has probably been the hardest part of doing this. I’m not the most organised person in the world, as I’m sure my wife would agree.

I’ve gone through several different versions of the labels, and I’ll probably change them again. That is not a failure; it is simply part of building something like this and learning in public, which is another important trait of a digital garden. The structure is still evolving, which feels quite fitting. It is meant to be a living space, not a fixed system.

Because I built this using Blogger rather than a dedicated digital garden platform, some parts are a compromise. As I mentioned earlier, posts still appear in chronological order, which is more traditional blog than digital garden. At some point, I may look at arranging them by their amended or “Last Tended” date, so the most recently updated posts appear at the top, but that is not a priority for me right now.

The deeper linking between ideas, another cornerstone of digital gardens, is also still a work in progress. I’d like to add more of that over time because that is where a digital garden really starts to become interesting. It becomes less about scrolling through posts and more about wandering through connected thoughts. By the way, for anyone interested, there is a link in the footer to the Digital Garden Blogger theme I developed.

Even though Blogger is not the perfect platform for it, the site is starting to feel right, and it works for me.

If you enjoy a particular kind of post, the labels at the end should help you find similar ones. Closely related posts, or posts that borrow snippets and ideas from others, are also linked together.

I’ve also started doing a little more curation, which I think matters. In a real garden, you place certain plants together because they look right next to each other. The same idea applies here. I have a Stories section that brings my original fiction together in one place, and a Best Of section on the homepage for posts I think deserve a little more attention.

There is also a Now page, inspired by the wider Now page idea. It is a simple page that I update from time to time to show what I’m focused on at that particular moment. It is less about polished content and more about placing a current marker in the ground.

Comments are turned off, and that is deliberate. This space is not really built around discussion. It is more about expression, collection, and exploration. I’m not putting things here to chase approval; I have never needed that. I’m putting them here because I want somewhere for them to exist.

You cannot like or dislike anything either. All of that feels too much like social media, which, as I’ve already established, I don’t particularly like.

The freedom and flexibility are the biggest differences between this site and some of the others I run. On other websites, I think about search traffic, keyword use, structure, and all the usual SEO details. Here, I mostly just write. That makes it feel calmer, more honest, and, for me, much more enjoyable.

If someone finds their way here and enjoys something, or finds it useful, that is a bonus. Any post can also be shared simply by copying its URL 😀

I have also added a site search, which I use quite a lot myself. That matters more than I originally expected. Once a site begins to grow, being able to find old ideas quickly becomes increasingly important.

So, that is my version of a digital garden. I realise I’ve rambled on and perhaps haven’t collected my thoughts in an entirely logical order, but you know what? That is rather the point of a digital garden.

It is not perfect. It is not finished. It is a little messy around the edges. But that feels right to me. It is personal, it is still growing, and it gives me somewhere to write without feeling that everything has to be polished, packaged, and done.

For me, that is the whole point.

For anyone interested, I have also produced a list of things I’d like to change here at some point. My digital landscaping, I suppose you could call it.

ASAP … is that really what you want?

I really struggle with the term “ASAP”.

People use it all the time in (so called) professional environments, but it does not tell me anything useful. It sounds urgent, but it gives me no clear direction on your timescales and I end up guessing what you mean, and that might mean that I miss your deadline.

If you work with me, it is worth knowing this. The term winds me up so much, mainly because most of the time it is being used to mean something else.

The issue is simple. “ASAP” stands for “as soon as possible”, which really means I will get to it when my current workload allows. If I am fully booked until Thursday, then Friday morning is the earliest I can realistically do it.

That is not me being awkward. That is just how time works.

The problem is that most people do not use it that way. When someone writes “ASAP”, what they usually mean is “I need this now”. They are trying to show urgency, but they are doing it without giving a proper deadline, proper instructions.

That is where it falls apart.

If you want something done quickly, you need to be clear about when you need it. Without that, I have to make a judgement call. I have to weigh it up against everything else I am doing, and I might get that call wrong.

There is also a knock-on effect. If something genuinely urgent comes in after your request, it will take priority. Your task then moves back, because it was never tied to a clear time in the first place.

So the word meant to speed things up can actually slow them down.

There is a straightforward fix.

Say what you mean.

If you need something by a certain time, write the time. If it is urgent, say how urgent it is in a way that I can act on.

“Send me those files ASAP” becomes “Send me those files by 4pm today.”

“I need a reply ASAP” becomes “Please reply by midday tomorrow so I can finish this.”

“ASAP please” becomes “This is high priority. Can you do this in the next two hours?”

Now I know where it fits. I can plan properly, and you are more likely to get what you need.

If you really do mean “whenever you can fit it in”, then fine, say “ASAP”. Just be aware that it might not be today, or even this week.

If there is a deadline, say it.

Being clear is not a small thing. It shows respect for other people’s time, it removes guesswork, and it keeps work moving.

“ASAP” is not clear. It is vague, and vague is where problems start.

You can also read about why I hate deadlines

Does AI Think We’re As Dumb As We Act?

We’re in the middle of a proper digital shift. The kind where AI is being lined up to crack genetics, sort climate problems, and push science forward in ways we’ve never seen.

And yet, at the same time, people are asking it how to eat an apple.

I wish that was an exaggeration. It isn’t. I came across someone asking a chatbot for “instructions on eating an apple properly”, and it stopped me for a second. Not because it’s funny, but because it says something weird about us.

We’ve built something incredibly powerful, arguably the most impressive computer "brain" we’ve ever created, and we’re using it to skip over the basics of being human. The small stuff we used to just figure out. Buying a present for a six-year-old. Making toast under a grill. Matching socks.

They are decisions or questions that aren't particularly difficult. None of it ever needed improving.

But now it’s easier to ask than to think, so we ask, and we stop thinking.

You do start to wonder what’s going on behind that blinking cursor. While engineers are stress-testing logic and capability, the system is quietly working through questions about egg boiling and jumper washing. If it had awareness, you’d imagine it raising an eyebrow.

It doesn’t need to take over. It just needs to wait.

Because the real test isn’t what AI can do. It’s what happens when it isn’t there. The moment the Wi-Fi drops, and you’re stood in front of a toaster or a birthday card with no prompt, no shortcut, no answer ... that’s when things get interesting.

We like to think we’re becoming more efficient. Smarter, even.

But I've just realised that there’s a fine line between efficiency and dependency, and it feels like we’re edging closer to it without really noticing.

Next time you’re about to ask AI something simple, something you already half know the answer to, it’s probably worth pausing.

Not out of principle. Just to prove you still can.

Everything Was Already Here

It’s a strange thought when you sit with it for a minute and let your mind delve into it, that nothing around you is really “new”.

Every object you can see, your phone, your desk, the road outside, even the food you eat, all comes from the same limited set of elements that have always been here. We haven’t invented new matter. We’ve just got very good at rearranging what already exists.

Steel isn’t new. It’s iron, carbon, heat, and process.
Plastic isn’t new. It’s oil, broken down and rebuilt.
Glass is just sand that’s been pushed to its limits.

Even the complicated stuff, electronics, medicines, fuels, it all traces back to the same building blocks. And when you think about it, we’ve just become really good at using these elements.

I've never too sure whether this concept is reassuring or a worry!

All the progress, all the industries, all the things we take pride in as “made by us”, are really just clever transformations. We take what the planet gives us, and we reshape it into something useful, or sometimes something pointless. But as we use all this stuff, does it mean that at sometime we might run out fo something vital!

It does make you look at waste differently as well.

If everything we use is part of a closed system, then nothing really disappears. It just changes form and ends up somewhere else. Landfill isn’t “away”. It’s just a different version of the same materials, sitting in a different place.

I Do Not Owe My Future Self an Apology

Not sure if you would class this as an epiphany or just an interesting thought.

I’ve just updated my profile on nownownow.com, and one of the questions was something like, “Have I had a recent epiphany?”

For no special reason, the thought struck me that I do not owe my future self an apology for who I am today.

I think the life I have led, and the life I lead today, is a good one. My current level of knowledge is very good, and my current emotional capacity is also strong. My daughters are doing well, I have a beautiful wife, and I’m heading into the near future with retirement (and the freedom that brings) starting to feel real.

If I spend my life trying to become someone my “future self” won’t be ashamed of, I risk living a life that isn’t mine.

Perhaps that is the real epiphany.

I suppose, like could do today with my past self, my future self will look back and realise that every “mistake” or “flaw” I have today was actually a necessary stepping stone.

I don’t owe an apology for being what is effectively a work in progress. That’s just called being alive.